Relationship anxiety is powerful force which shapes how we connect with other people. It might be from past experiences, feeling insecure or simply miscommunication. So, in this piece, we have decided to look at five of the typical signs that your anxiety could be creeping into a relationship and give you some actionable ways through which these symptoms can start being managed today. Identify whether it is jealousy, the need of constant reassurance or just wanting to stalk your partners social media that cause those behaviors in you and then learn how to never have them again will help strengthen any relationship.
Jealousy
Signs: One of the most common symptom is Jealousy in relationship anxiety. The concern is about your partner falling for someone else, despite the fact that there may have just been mere appearances of unfaithfulness. It could even make you a little bit territorial with anyone who comes too close to your partner from the friend, colleague or random liker of their hue on social media variety. Unchecked jealousy, if not addressed and resolved by both parties equally sharing their time with others can lead over to feelings of resentment or excessive suspicion.
Solution: Admit that you are jealous, and understand it is an insecurity not a reality Just remember to be open with your partner about how you are feeling. Instead of accusing then, calmly express your concerns and listen to their side. Moreover, self-confidence development can make you more confident in the relationship. This might mean dedicating yourself to your hobbies, interests and self-improvement in order not to look at others with envy.
Individual or couples therapy can help with deep-seated insecurities as well. If jealousy is increasing in intensity, meeting with a professional counselor can help provide techniques on how to handle the emotion healthfully. You can receive support and guidance from All in the Family Counselling
Stalking Your Partner’s Movements via Social Media
Sign: Feeling anxious about your relationship with a side of stalking Symptom: You check his or her facebook page every 5 minutes You could feel a need to check what they are up to, who they follow and like posts from, even whose commenting under their post. And soon it leads a phase of disbelief, where every other like or comment might make you question the fidelity.
Answer: Realize that feeling like you have to stalk your spouse’s social media pages 24/7 is unhealthy and of no benefit. It does not help to build trust, and it can put strain on the relationship. So only way to overcome will be setting limits on social media use. Set yourself a specific time to check on social media, and NEVER go through your partner’s interactions, it is pretty much like diving into the rabbit hole.
Build trust and keep the lines of communication open. Talk to your partner if something on social media makes you worry, it is healthier than letting jealousy eat away at you. If things are posted online, they can be misconstrued as people not everyone talk to in real life and a simple conversation just confuses everything even more.
Getting Upset When They Don’t Reply Immediately
Symptom: Do you become worried or angry when your partner does not respond to texts and calls immediately? Here we see another one of the classic relationship anxiety signs. Or at best, we are an inconvenience and not worth the time it takes to respond. We live in a world where communication is instant or so it should be when you have your phone within arm’s reach 24/7!
Solution: Understand your partner might be busy or allowed with other responsibilities so they may not always be catch the phone. Instead of automatically assuming that they no longer have interested in you, or jumping to conclusions about your relationship, remind yourself (over and over again if need be) that a delay isn’t an excuse.
To calm down this anxious response, practice mindfulness or take a minute to breathe before reacting. Rather than your whole day spent worrying about their response, focus on some work or activities to keep yourself busy. You can only communicate your communication preferences to them, and set reasonable proposes on how you guys are going to be available during the day.
Needing Constant Reassurance
Signs: People with a fear of relationships tend to require constant confirmation from your spouse. You may ask yourself, “Do you still care?” or “Are you happy with me?” especially without any sign from your partner that their feelings are not the same. This behaviour may be rooted in fears of abandonment or rejection.
Answer: it is fine if you take reassurances once in awhile but demanding one after the other will damage your relationship. Your partner will feel like they are asked to give emotional allowance, and this can also be very frustrating. Solution: cultivate inner self-confidence and internal emotional independence
Rather than expecting your partner to reassure you, look inwards for what these fears are pointing toward. An effective counseling therapist can guide you through past experiences or arbitrary conclusions based on thought distortions that breathe life into your anxiety. Then be sure to express what you are feeling with your partner. Show them what you are going through, but try to have faith their love and loyalty doesn’t always need validation in words.
A History of Drama and Instability in Your Relationships
Context: If your previous relationships have tended to be quite dramatic, passive-aggressive or otherwise unhealthy ones you may find yourself carrying those types of behaviours into this relationship. This can also establish a pattern of response that violence is necessary by your partner, and leave you always on edge in fear all relationships are destined to end the same way. It can make you either over-react to minor problems or even CREATE drama where there was none (out of fear that the same mistake is going to happen again.)
Solution: Self-awareness, and the determination to change means breaking the repeating cycle of drama and instability. Think about your history of relationships and see which actions in the past led to chaos. Did your mind jump to place the blame? Were you an over reactor to confrontations? Identifying these traits can help you take measures to avoid continuing showing that form of behaviour in your new relationship.
Direct your attention only towards a relationship that is mature and peaceful. It is about clear communication, patience and not making things worse than they are. Seek counseling together so you can heal past wounds and develop stronger solutions for dealing with issues in your relationship.
Conclusion
Dealing with relationship anxiety could be a huge pain, but you can manage it by doing few and right things correctly. By naming these symptoms, whether they be jealousy, or social media stalking, needing excessive reassurance – can you move to action and support the promotion of health in your relationship? Meeting these challenges head-on requires open communication, trust-building, and personal growth work.
You may also benefit from speaking with a professional if dealing with relationship anxiety feels unmanageable on your own. It gives you tons of amazing tools and insights to forming relationships properly. If you would like to help yourself navigate these challenges, it can be beneficial to speak with a professional at All in the Family Counselling for more guidance.
